Spot the straw man. (Hint: I bolded it)
I said SOME are happy to do it, and have listed several mastering houses that consistently do it (as far as popular music goes). As for being insulted, I don't see anywhere I've stated "all mastering engineers yadda yadda yadda", so if you're insulted it's not based on anything in my post. To reiterate, "The idea that no mastering engineers are smashing is hard to substantiate", which was in response to the absurd claim that smashing doesn't occur at the mastering stage made a few posts earlier.
This is no "myth" - an individual artist not on a label paid good money for one of the top mastering engineers (AA at Gateway) to master his newest single and got back a very hot master. Yes, my friend did the right thing, because the mastering engineer did not. He wasn't instructed to make it hot by the artist, nor by any label suits, that was the default he went with.
We all know the engineers that oppose it, some are vocal about it even though they still will deliver hot masters if the client wants it (Bob Ludwig, Greg Reierson) and others who would rather turn work away than put their name on it (Kevin Gray, Barry Diament).
I've tried to be friendly, and you seem to want to be legalistic, so let me be blunt… you're wrong. On all fronts.
Meaning both your assumptions are wrong, and your conclusions.
1. Everything gets approved by the client, the mastering engineer is a service provider. Read that over and over until you truly get it.
2. There are not "some" mastering engineers who are more inclined to be more dynamic in any objective sense. It's all a gray scale, everything is compressed ... and at the end of the day ... see number one.
3. As I mentioned, and you've skipped over : the first pass people send out is based on what their normal / typical customer base is expecting from them. Unless we are interested in starting everything from scratch, there's no point in being extremely dynamic in a world where that is not normal he asked for. Thus there's nothing loud-biased about doing what we think is expected in providing the service. It's just a first pass, revisions are an option.
If your friend specifically asked for a dynamic pass, communicated their needs, and it came back slammed that would different. That would be a communication mistake, but it still wouldn't prove your point, because you don't have a point. Everyone I know, and I know a lot of people mastering records, is more than happy to make a more dynamic pass.
4. As I've mentioned previously and this is huge and not well understood: A measurably more dynamic record does NOT necessarily sound more dynamic, or sound better. Two things at the exact same RMS or LUFS integrated measurement could have a very very different sound. One of them could be quite thin and seem very dynamic, and the other one could be quite thick and dark, and seem very compressed. At the same average level.
And ... Both might sound bad. Nothing to do with the level
The interplay between frequency, balance, harmonics, compression, limiting, and Mid Side power balance is the cocktail of mastering ... and within that cocktail lies the secrets to making things sound good, at any average level.
The average volume level making something SEEM DYNAMIC within that equation is a much smaller factor than you are making it.
5. Adam last I knew works in Bob's studio and developed his techniques and skills under Bob, so there is no reasonable assumption that somehow Adam likes hot records, and Bob doesn't, that's just ridiculous.
6. Turning down work because someone wants it a little bit louder really doesn't make any sense because the next person is going to give them what they want. So it's not some honorable stand of principal, it shows that the person turning down the work lacks the skill to make the most of a difficult request. Or they are too lazy to make the effort, or they are too arrogant to serve.
Maybe once a year do I get a mix that I have to politely request someone to redo because it's too slammed
Every day I get mixes that are quite dynamic. That aren't very good, because dynamics don't equal good sounding records.
Maybe once a year, does somebody push me beyond where it doesn't sound as good, and I make a point to tell them so, respectfully.
I work on a couple thousand songs a year and the skill and the challenge is making everything sound as good as possible no matter how it comes in or what the client is after.
It's clear that you have some real negativity towards "some" mastering engineers, and it's clear that you think you understand the day to day life of the mastering engineer.
Clients wanting things to be louder has always existed going back to the days of vinyl cutting, and the good news is that in 2023 we are far past the era of peak loudness, that was maybe around Death Magnetic.