I am with the guys above. You are doing what many would never handle. You need a break to establish vision of your accomplishments and needs. Just short breaks will give clarity and strength. Your a good dude.
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Snood, I really do not know you, but your message is loud and clear. I totally commend you for what you have been doing for the last few years. Most people would ship mom off to a home. Now to the point of my response. The most profound life lesson comes from a flight attendant every time before take off. I goes like this, when the oxygen masks drop, put the mask on yourself before putting it on a child. Best of luck to you!
jefe1
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Yes caretakers need to make sure they take care of themselves before their charges.
Hi again everybody thank you all for all the advice and encouragement - It has been a busy 7 days and will update you all a lil later.....
Nutshell version - She fell...Wednesday - soon after visions started again....Dr today - will post more a lil later. No sleep, lotsa stress, lotsa worry, lotsa tears.
Nutshell version - She fell...Wednesday - soon after visions started again....Dr today - will post more a lil later. No sleep, lotsa stress, lotsa worry, lotsa tears.
Frogmort
1K Club - QQ Shooting Star
I am so sorry to hear about what you've been going through my friend, but I am also amazed at how you've gone above and beyond what most people would be able to handle. I really hope the doctors can find some way to get Momma Snood's medication balanced, and although I don't know much about this stuff, several people in this thread have mentioned checking into what type of assistance you might be able to get, even if for only one day a week.
I was very close with my mom, but lost her 16 years ago to cancer. There was no one on this earth I loved as dearly as her, and I'm in awe of how much you have done for your mom, but don't forget to take care of yourself as well. I really feel for you, as probably the nicest person I've ever met on the internet, and do consider you a friend. I know that you've always made me feel welcome on here, probably more than anyone else and I truly appreciate all of the kindness you've shown me.
Maybe try to reach out to friends and family and let them know that you desperately need some help, and again, take the time to check into what kind of assistance that might be available in your area. It really hurts my heart to see such a wondeful person suffering so much. I wish you and your mother all the best and hope you can find some kind of peace soon brother.
I was very close with my mom, but lost her 16 years ago to cancer. There was no one on this earth I loved as dearly as her, and I'm in awe of how much you have done for your mom, but don't forget to take care of yourself as well. I really feel for you, as probably the nicest person I've ever met on the internet, and do consider you a friend. I know that you've always made me feel welcome on here, probably more than anyone else and I truly appreciate all of the kindness you've shown me.
Maybe try to reach out to friends and family and let them know that you desperately need some help, and again, take the time to check into what kind of assistance that might be available in your area. It really hurts my heart to see such a wondeful person suffering so much. I wish you and your mother all the best and hope you can find some kind of peace soon brother.
Sorry everybody for no updates lately, but today was not a good day
Momma Snood is in the Hospital - She decided to get up a lil early today made her bed then decide to dust with only turning on 1 light. She fell..........to make matters worse after opening the curtains for her she started seeing things again - Whole trees moving and stuff. Went ummmmm and things got worse. So I said let me call the Dr office.........they said well they closing early and off on Friday so you should take her to the ER.....they asked did she hit her head, I asked Mom and she said I think so (did not notice any bumps or blood) - Nurse then says you must take her to ER and I am like really? Can't you just send me to the cat scan place you sent me to b4? She says the doc needs to see you for that, I say well How bout if I show up and say Hi doc and he sets me up for the cat scan? Nope
So off we go - I am freaking out but gotaa do it - ER packed - checked her in with wheel chair......went to the way other side of waiting area.....waited about lil over an hour to get triaged.......luckily nurse said she would put us up near the top. Waited another 45 to hear our names again to see the dr............I figured i should tell them everything wrong with her, Urinary Tract Infections, Major Constipation like 10 days, 11 days 7 days and 10 and now 5 and I had to give her enemas. Told them about the hallucinations, the pain she was having in her leg and her current antibiotic meds. Dr says well the constipation like that is probably why she is getting UTIs and i was like whaaaaaa....her doctor never mentioned that and was treating them separately. Then ER doc asks what she was taking as Antibiotics i show him the bottle and he says well this is a very mild antibiotic and is more of a in house drs office kind of antibiotic. I was getting very upset.
Waited there until they started doing tests, asked about time they said 2 to 4 hours and i asked if I should wait, they said well if you wait i would not wait out in the waiting room.......half his patients were covid patients WTF!!!!??
Me and mom were wearing N95 mask and another plain mask.
We got there about 12:20 - I got out of there about 2:30/3 - she is still in ER waiting for a room - they are admitting her - but to observation first then to the hospital.
Doctor said they were going to take her to make sure they find out why she is not pooping. Because they can not release her till they do that and make sure they get the strong antibiotics to make sure she is UTI free before she leaves. If she is not pooping then she will keep getting UTIs. Also running a catsscan and xrays and other tests on her leg. Sooooo yeah what a day.......still waiting to hear any results.
Willl not be able to visit until she gets a room tomorrow I would hope
This will be the first night without Mom around for like 5 years. Might have a drink or 2 and try to get some sleep without having to check the baby monitor every hour or so. Not saying that is a good thing, but I do need the sleep. The house is too quiet and weird, miss her already.
So she might be in the hospital for a few days or more......dunno - I would be surprised if less. Do want to make sure everything is koo with her. I hated having to take her to ER in this covid situation (we both fully vaxxed with booster), but still. But I think it was for the best to get her up and running and finding out exactly what is what.
What a shitty day and New Years Eve - at least we can start the New Year finding out the real probs, getting her fixed
aaaaaaand
perhaps finding a new Momma Snood doctor
Momma Snood is in the Hospital - She decided to get up a lil early today made her bed then decide to dust with only turning on 1 light. She fell..........to make matters worse after opening the curtains for her she started seeing things again - Whole trees moving and stuff. Went ummmmm and things got worse. So I said let me call the Dr office.........they said well they closing early and off on Friday so you should take her to the ER.....they asked did she hit her head, I asked Mom and she said I think so (did not notice any bumps or blood) - Nurse then says you must take her to ER and I am like really? Can't you just send me to the cat scan place you sent me to b4? She says the doc needs to see you for that, I say well How bout if I show up and say Hi doc and he sets me up for the cat scan? Nope
So off we go - I am freaking out but gotaa do it - ER packed - checked her in with wheel chair......went to the way other side of waiting area.....waited about lil over an hour to get triaged.......luckily nurse said she would put us up near the top. Waited another 45 to hear our names again to see the dr............I figured i should tell them everything wrong with her, Urinary Tract Infections, Major Constipation like 10 days, 11 days 7 days and 10 and now 5 and I had to give her enemas. Told them about the hallucinations, the pain she was having in her leg and her current antibiotic meds. Dr says well the constipation like that is probably why she is getting UTIs and i was like whaaaaaa....her doctor never mentioned that and was treating them separately. Then ER doc asks what she was taking as Antibiotics i show him the bottle and he says well this is a very mild antibiotic and is more of a in house drs office kind of antibiotic. I was getting very upset.
Waited there until they started doing tests, asked about time they said 2 to 4 hours and i asked if I should wait, they said well if you wait i would not wait out in the waiting room.......half his patients were covid patients WTF!!!!??
Me and mom were wearing N95 mask and another plain mask.
We got there about 12:20 - I got out of there about 2:30/3 - she is still in ER waiting for a room - they are admitting her - but to observation first then to the hospital.
Doctor said they were going to take her to make sure they find out why she is not pooping. Because they can not release her till they do that and make sure they get the strong antibiotics to make sure she is UTI free before she leaves. If she is not pooping then she will keep getting UTIs. Also running a catsscan and xrays and other tests on her leg. Sooooo yeah what a day.......still waiting to hear any results.
Willl not be able to visit until she gets a room tomorrow I would hope
This will be the first night without Mom around for like 5 years. Might have a drink or 2 and try to get some sleep without having to check the baby monitor every hour or so. Not saying that is a good thing, but I do need the sleep. The house is too quiet and weird, miss her already.
So she might be in the hospital for a few days or more......dunno - I would be surprised if less. Do want to make sure everything is koo with her. I hated having to take her to ER in this covid situation (we both fully vaxxed with booster), but still. But I think it was for the best to get her up and running and finding out exactly what is what.
What a shitty day and New Years Eve - at least we can start the New Year finding out the real probs, getting her fixed
aaaaaaand
perhaps finding a new Momma Snood doctor
I hope she'll be OK!
Really sucks. But now maybe she'll get some real help. I hope so.
popshop
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Snood, I can't even type without welling up. You are a good human and an incredible son. She is so fortunate to have you.
Please let us know how we can help now or down the road.
Please let us know how we can help now or down the road.
Holy cats, Snood...you're absolutely amazing. But you also deserve some rest. So I hope you sleep the sleep of the just. And I hope that your mom is getting some good professional care, and that you get some good news about her in the morning.
Good luck to you and your Mom.
Snood, you know you have our love ❤
As Popshop said, it is very hard not to feel emotional reading your heartfelt words.
I sure hope that your mom gets the care she needs.
And you Snood get the rest you need so you can be firing on all cylinders to help your mom.
Take care Snood and your mom.
As Popshop said, it is very hard not to feel emotional reading your heartfelt words.
I sure hope that your mom gets the care she needs.
And you Snood get the rest you need so you can be firing on all cylinders to help your mom.
Take care Snood and your mom.
Imbobman
1K Club - QQ Shooting Star
Man, what a tough situation...... My heart goes out to you.
Really hoping & praying for her recovery. So sorry to hear about these things happening.
Snood you did the right thing.. May God bless you both.
Really hoping & praying for her recovery. So sorry to hear about these things happening.
Snood you did the right thing.. May God bless you both.
You are a Saint Snood. Best wishes to both of you.
big hugs for Snood and Mama Snood 
doity
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Wow Snood, you are one dedicated son I have to say. Oh by the way......I told my wife about you some time back. Well not about you personally but your screen name you, and Snood’s habit (or gimmick) of referring to himself in the third-person. Also about the dancing bananas and the ‘Snoodville’ thing. She said something like “you guys are crazy”........so you are World Famous now! Ha Ha.
But I have to say that I can’t imagine many men making the sacrifices that you are making. You will be rewarded some day, even if it is just having piece of mind that you did the best that you could do. I was my mom’s caretaker for four plus years (I think that I mentioned it here a couple of times) and it was the hardest thing that I ever did. You have to be completely selfless to do something like that, and I wasn’t cut out for it. Nobody really is frankly. She has Dementia and getting my family involved was like pulling teeth.
She is in a great care home now thank god. That “job” took years off of my life and I looked like a Holocaust survivor when it was over. And that is not making light of the Holocaust.......I am Jewish and had distant relatives perish in those places. My hat is off to you my man. Stay strong and take some time for yourself, if possible.
But I have to say that I can’t imagine many men making the sacrifices that you are making. You will be rewarded some day, even if it is just having piece of mind that you did the best that you could do. I was my mom’s caretaker for four plus years (I think that I mentioned it here a couple of times) and it was the hardest thing that I ever did. You have to be completely selfless to do something like that, and I wasn’t cut out for it. Nobody really is frankly. She has Dementia and getting my family involved was like pulling teeth.
She is in a great care home now thank god. That “job” took years off of my life and I looked like a Holocaust survivor when it was over. And that is not making light of the Holocaust.......I am Jewish and had distant relatives perish in those places. My hat is off to you my man. Stay strong and take some time for yourself, if possible.
Wow, you're doing a great job Snood, not easy, get some rest.
It sounds like you have got Momma Snood into a good hospital and they will get to the bottom of what is wrong, and get it all sorted out. I would change Doctor, the current one doesn't seem to be that good or even care that much.
It sounds like you have got Momma Snood into a good hospital and they will get to the bottom of what is wrong, and get it all sorted out. I would change Doctor, the current one doesn't seem to be that good or even care that much.
God bless you Snood, you’re a great son and an incredible human being. Please take this opportunity to get plenty of rest and recharge your batteries; it is way past time to take care of the caretaker.
Putting on my retired physician(albeit pediatrician) hat, I would strongly recommend that you have the doctors review all of her meds, along with their potential interactions and side effects. Be sure to include over the counter and herbal meds. Her constipation and her hallucinations may(emphasis on “may”) be due to her meds. Also, ask for the names of some good local geriatric specialists. Yes, all adult primary care docs take care of elderly people but geriatric docs specifically train and specialize in the care of the elderly. Also be aware that many elderly people begin to hallucinate in the evening when they are in the hospital. This is called “sundowning” and it is far too common. I welcome you to Google it, and I tell you this not to be cruel but so that you are not further weirded out if this happens.
Also, it would not be a bad idea for her to have a rapid home Covid test five days after she gets home. Even in the pre-Covid days, hospitals were common places to get sick. Lastly, be aware that, when they send Momma Snood home, they will ask you to set up a followup visit with her primary. I apologize for being too obvious but you will have to see this person until Momma Snood gets an appointment to see somebody else. Obviously, easier said than done anywhere in the US, but I’m guessing that it’s even more difficult to arrange (for demographic reasons)in Florida.
I sincerely wish only the best things for you and Momma Snood in 2022. There has to be some positive karma out there waiting for you.
Putting on my retired physician(albeit pediatrician) hat, I would strongly recommend that you have the doctors review all of her meds, along with their potential interactions and side effects. Be sure to include over the counter and herbal meds. Her constipation and her hallucinations may(emphasis on “may”) be due to her meds. Also, ask for the names of some good local geriatric specialists. Yes, all adult primary care docs take care of elderly people but geriatric docs specifically train and specialize in the care of the elderly. Also be aware that many elderly people begin to hallucinate in the evening when they are in the hospital. This is called “sundowning” and it is far too common. I welcome you to Google it, and I tell you this not to be cruel but so that you are not further weirded out if this happens.
Also, it would not be a bad idea for her to have a rapid home Covid test five days after she gets home. Even in the pre-Covid days, hospitals were common places to get sick. Lastly, be aware that, when they send Momma Snood home, they will ask you to set up a followup visit with her primary. I apologize for being too obvious but you will have to see this person until Momma Snood gets an appointment to see somebody else. Obviously, easier said than done anywhere in the US, but I’m guessing that it’s even more difficult to arrange (for demographic reasons)in Florida.
I sincerely wish only the best things for you and Momma Snood in 2022. There has to be some positive karma out there waiting for you.
She walked in the hospital with a walker and 4 days later she was discharged today but when she went to get up to get in the wheel chair, she could stand but not mover her legs to walk......She had to get out today the neurologist said the best place for her was with me at home because without me there she become delirious and lost and doesnt trust anyone or know where she is, but as soon I get there within 5 to 10 minutes she comes to and knows where she is and addresses dates and lets the nurses take her blood etc......
The loook on her face or being scared, bewildered and my gosh I would not wish this on anybody - I stayed there 9 hours,6 hours and 9 hours - NYE i didnt leave there til 20 til 12 and visitor hours are over at 8.....last 2 days they told me i had to leave at 8 and she was so scared and confused.
She is the world to me and can not stop crying. THye want to send her to rehab and yeah she needs it, but it is going to wreck her mentally. I just keep thinking about her being all alone and scared right now and waking up tomorrow even worse........please make this stop. I can't stop crying - she means the world to me , but she scared when I had to leave.....pleaaaaaaaaaaase
The loook on her face or being scared, bewildered and my gosh I would not wish this on anybody - I stayed there 9 hours,6 hours and 9 hours - NYE i didnt leave there til 20 til 12 and visitor hours are over at 8.....last 2 days they told me i had to leave at 8 and she was so scared and confused.
She is the world to me and can not stop crying. THye want to send her to rehab and yeah she needs it, but it is going to wreck her mentally. I just keep thinking about her being all alone and scared right now and waking up tomorrow even worse........please make this stop. I can't stop crying - she means the world to me , but she scared when I had to leave.....pleaaaaaaaaaaase
